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“I know I’m ready to give feedback when: … Excerpt From: Brené Brown’s, “Daring Greatly.” Gotham Books, 2012-09-11

This spoke to me….

“I know I’m ready to give feedback when:

I’m ready to sit next to you rather than across from you;

I’m willing to put the problem in front of us rather than between us (or sliding it toward you);

I’m ready to listen, ask questions, and accept that I may not fully understand the issue;

I want to acknowledge what you do well instead of picking apart your mistakes;

I recognize your strengths and how you can use them to address your challenges;

I can hold you accountable without shaming or blaming you;
I’m willing to own my part;

I can genuinely thank you for your efforts rather than criticize you for your failings;

I can talk about how resolving these challenges will lead to your growth and opportunity; and,

I can model the vulnerability and openness that I expect to see from you.”

Check out this book on the iBooks Store: https://itun.es/us/JIOIE.l

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Has anyone read or is any one reading….

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“DARING GREATLY”
How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
BRENÉ BROWN, Ph.D., LMSW”

Gotham Books, 2012-09-11. iBooks.
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I’m reading it now. Some of the things mentioned, I’d heard/read before. However, when I stopped thinking about “the science behind it” and the “Oh, this phD said it better” it became clear.

today I feel as if this may add to my web.

a pui tardi

oh, the image, I found on the interwebs.

The Pay it forward challenge

Well, I made the mistake of actually reading a few Facebook postings and ran across this…

The first 5 people to comment below will receive a gift from me. It might be a book, concert tickets, a pen… who knows… a random surprise. It will be sent to you sometime before the end of 2013, randomly and without notice. It doesn’t matter where you are in the world, provided you are a friend on FB. It will happen whenever I feel inspired and I find something cool that I think you’ll like. There is one catch. Those five people must make the same offer in the FB status before the end of the week. It’s about spreading goodwill and paying-it-forward.

THIS IS/WAS FOR FACEBOOK ONLY!!! I do not there to be any confusion!! 🙂
I thought this was refreshing! There was no threat of financial ruin. My hair won’t fall out. The swarm of locusts has been delayed! Jejejejeje

So, I’m going to participate! I’ve some really neat gift ideas!

Let’s see….

Jennifer ✅
Kim ✅
Diane ✅

three down, two to go!

Is it wrong for me to be really excited about this?

A pui tardi!

I tell you that “I’m fine.” The reality…

is that I’m not. I think Paul Lawrence Dunbar said it best

We Wear the Mask

WE wear the mask that grins and lies,
It hides our cheeks and shades our eyes,—
This debt we pay to human guile;
With torn and bleeding hearts we smile,
And mouth with myriad subtleties.

Why should the world be over-wise,
In counting all our tears and sighs?
Nay, let them only see us, while
We wear the mask.

We smile, but, O great Christ, our cries
To thee from tortured souls arise.
We sing, but oh the clay is vile
Beneath our feet, and long the mile;
But let the world dream otherwise,
We wear the mask!

Today, I ache, from the crown of my head to the soles of my feet. I’ve spent the morning worshipping the porcelain goddess.

I have spent the better part of the morning, mourning for the Drew of yesteryear. Jeepers, for a man who very rarely if ever cried, that is all I seem to do. As if tears can heal. Yeah, I know tears can be very cathartic. At least that’s what I read.

You know of late, I’ve been thinking of an old television show, Logan’s Run. To shuck it to the cob, at age 30 I believe, you were killed. Or something like that. I can’t really recall.

I want it over. Yet, I want to “beat” this. I want to show how strong human determination and will are. But the energy it takes, is exhausting.

I believe that science holds the key. I believe that my faith also holds the key. Faith and science, very strange bedfellows. 😒 The physicians all say that by taking this pill and that capsule, getting this shot and that shot, they say I’ll live a long life. bollocks Having to put synthetic drugs into my “temple” every six hours…isn’t NORMAL. Having to have weekly blood tests just to make sure these meds haven’t become TOXIC….that isn’t normal.

Wowzers, of course, I want to scream, “Why me?” As if I would wish this agony on anyone else. I’ve looked back over the 46 years…..more like 26 and examined my actions to see if I “deserve” this. And if course, I see a near perfect and just life. I admit to some faults and flaws – a few missteps, but nothing to deserve …..this. But all in all I see a life lived as authentically as possible. I see a person who opened his home, heart and wallet to anyone in need. What does that mean now? Absolutely nothing it doesn’t mean a bloody thing.

Well, I’m done for today. Going to make every effort to escape this room. But honestly, that ain’t gonna happen.

Despite the pain and misery, I am of peace.

Ciao ciao!

With this “down time,” I’m gonna try this blogging thing again

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About the Twitter posting, first. I don’t know what was up that. However, minutes before I did tweet that I was going to be led by the Universe. So, we shall see what becomes of that.

Secondly,

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Yeah, I’m still doing the photography thing.

If music be the food of love, play on;
Give me excess of it, that, surfeiting,
The appetite may sicken, and so die.
That strain again! it had a dying fall:
O! it came o’er my ear like the sweet sound
That breathes upon a bank of violets,
Stealing and giving odour.
(Twelfth Night, 1.1.1-7)

This is really odd. I was really geared up to write this, but the moment I sat down, “poof” the mood is gone.

Tomorrow is another day.

Today isn’t over.