Category Archives: killing the messenger

E ‘stato un po ‘. and a few things have changed…here

Humm,

I try to post that whenever and wherever I can.

Bear with me, I’ve not worked from the desktop in a while. The feel of an actual keyboard is …odd.

Because I love Domo-kun.

OK, here we go…

Closure. Can we talk?

Yesterday, I had a conversation with a friend (we’ll call Timmy) who expressed that he wished that his friend (Billy) would talk about, a dark place in his life.

So, you know me. I asked,”What purpose would that serve him? Why would Billy wish to think about that period? Why would he want to re-live that? He has learned from it. He has become a much better person. He is actually happy; and, he has apparently moved on. Hell, he is thriving now as opposed to then. So why would he need to discuss that time?”

Now, here is the key, I think.

“Because I want him to discuss it so that I can have some closure.”

I am really startled. “Just why do you need closure on Billy’s problem? I am really curious to hear your answer to this.

Because, (reasons aren’t really relevant) but to sum it up. Timmy feels that because he went through those things with Billy, and that things were said about Timmy that “just weren’t true,” yada yada ya – ex-chetra (yeah, I know, watch Community)…..

“OK, do you not think Timmy has considered the source? Has he not apologised repeatedly? Has he not given you the ‘credit’ you’re due?”

I see where this is going so I raise a finger and say…

What you want, is to talk about YOU.
What YOU want is to talk about how YOU feel/felt.
What YOU want is to be the centre of attention.

If YOU need to discuss it, why don’t YOU talk to a therapist?

I thought you did those things out of concern, love and affection. Not to have something to bring up everytime you have an opportunity just so that you can say what you’ve done, and how you helped….

Subject changed….

So “closure” is it really for the “victim/survivor” or their “friends?”

a pui tardi

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Ok, I am not sexist at all, well I kinda am, but in a good way.

However, I swear before the gods of sky and earth that working with a gaggle of women is EXHAUSTING and FRUSTRATING.

Ok, here it is … I pass along a message and all I hear is I don’t remember…….

I don’t think I should…

Don’t think, I am not overly concerned about what you think you should and should not have to do. If there is no harm in doing what was asked, just do it and then complain to the person who initially issued the order. Don’t shoot the messenger! Geez louise!

OK I am done now.

Don’t know how the tree comes into play. the day I saw it, I swore that even nature was mocking me! LOL!

Enjoy

Arrgh!!!

Oh the title, that will lead to another blog later… stay tuned!

DO NOT TOUCH YOUR HUMAN INTERFACE DEVICE!