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you know that brittany spears song, “oops, i did it again?” Well, think of it when you read the first few lines,

oops, i did it again.
i opened my mouth,
offended a friend…

OK enough of that.


i ran (literally, with a shopping cart) into a friend, one whom i’ve not seen in a few months.

“oh my god, drew. hey. i’ve been really worried about you. i’ve been meaning to call you.”

i look at him with a puzzled expression and ask “really?”
but,the voice decided to take it to the next level.

i chuckle and ask why he said that.

AND BEFORE he could answer, i stop him and ask,

“why people (myself included) who have been out of touch, that is the first thing they say?

when in reality, if you are truly concerned…:



picked up the phone


sent me an e-mail


gone to any of the BILLION social networking sites of which i am a member and left a message


skyped me (it’s always on)

gotten in your car and driven over?

so, i ask you again, just how concerned were you?

just how concerned am i?

where does the offense part come in? well, his wife just sent me a text saying that he didn’t like being put on the spot.

all i did was ask a question.


oops, i did it again.
i opened my mouth,
offended a friend…


but what i’ve learned, i need to make sure i don’t say the same…


a pui tardi


e.e. cummings












it all started with a photograph…

the photo…..

the “header”…….. “sad, but very true…perspective”……

and the discussion that ensued….

I am removing the names to “protect” the innocent…

G+ guy – ok this is just wrong, I get what you are saying but come on, not right now! Honestly I know their (sic) are millions of kids dying over seas, I know that, but to take away from this man’s legacy and the lose we have sustained is totally inconsiderate. This was someone’s father, brother, friend, mentor!!!
9:58 PM
Me – I’ve not taken anything away from his legacy. That can’t be done.
10:05 PM
Me –  query, When would have been a good time to post it? Despite the fact that he was a husband, mentor, etc.  all of the things you said does not take away from the fact that more airtime was given to his death than any of the “real” concerns of the planet… unemployment, the rise in HIV infection among women and peoples of colour, global warming, domestic abuse, you know …. That’s why I added “perspective” to the comment.
10:11 PM
Me –  But thanks for your perspective. Gotta love a country that allows a “free” flow of thought and discourse.
10:12 PM
G+ guy-  ok do you know how to solve any of those issue? if so then let up talk about it, if not their is no need to talk about it
10:13 PM
Me –  Ahh, but if we don’t talk about these issues, ideas can’t be formed. And yes, I do have ideas on how some of our serious social issues can be addressed. Now, what ideas do YOU have on improving race relations? He asked a question about interracial relationships earlier in the day.
Ahhhh, I believe we have started up that smelly creek.
10:19 PM
G+ guy –  I do not; This is the reason why I do not talk about it! I am not in the position to do anything about it; as of yet, it is not something that is on my mind. This seems like something which interests you so I recommend you get a plan, put it together, and get started on it. If I can financially support you I will, if not get those who can, but for God sakes do not build your platform on the heels of someone elses legacy.
10:28 PM
Me –  what platform? I am not running for office. I am not trying to curry favour with anyone. I am, as you have done, voicing my opinion (in images). Sir, I am not in the business of being right or wrong. (Hi Cathy!) I just like to remind folk that there are larger issues abound. And I believe, that although I may not be able to “do” something to fix an issue, but if I can make someone else pause and say, “I have an idea that may work,” then a step toward a solution may evolve. Quien sabes amigo mio? Our exchange may have lit a fire in someone’s mind…. 🙂
10:36 PM
G+ guy – I do not mean to come off as a dick! I just believe if you want someone to understand your heart, just tell them, regardless of how you tell them, only the ones who want to listen will!
10:36 PM
Me- I didn’t/don’t think you were/are being “a dick.” You expressed your opinion. I’m cool with that. 🙂
Your thoughts?

60s TV BATMAN REUNION: Oct. 8, 2011 Adam West, Burt Ward, Lee Meriwether 3/3

here is part three…


E ‘stato un po ‘. and a few things have changed…here


I try to post that whenever and wherever I can.

Bear with me, I’ve not worked from the desktop in a while. The feel of an actual keyboard is …odd.

Because I love Domo-kun.

OK, here we go…

Closure. Can we talk?

Yesterday, I had a conversation with a friend (we’ll call Timmy) who expressed that he wished that his friend (Billy) would talk about, a dark place in his life.

So, you know me. I asked,”What purpose would that serve him? Why would Billy wish to think about that period? Why would he want to re-live that? He has learned from it. He has become a much better person. He is actually happy; and, he has apparently moved on. Hell, he is thriving now as opposed to then. So why would he need to discuss that time?”

Now, here is the key, I think.

“Because I want him to discuss it so that I can have some closure.”

I am really startled. “Just why do you need closure on Billy’s problem? I am really curious to hear your answer to this.

Because, (reasons aren’t really relevant) but to sum it up. Timmy feels that because he went through those things with Billy, and that things were said about Timmy that “just weren’t true,” yada yada ya – ex-chetra (yeah, I know, watch Community)…..

“OK, do you not think Timmy has considered the source? Has he not apologised repeatedly? Has he not given you the ‘credit’ you’re due?”

I see where this is going so I raise a finger and say…

What you want, is to talk about YOU.
What YOU want is to talk about how YOU feel/felt.
What YOU want is to be the centre of attention.

If YOU need to discuss it, why don’t YOU talk to a therapist?

I thought you did those things out of concern, love and affection. Not to have something to bring up everytime you have an opportunity just so that you can say what you’ve done, and how you helped….

Subject changed….

So “closure” is it really for the “victim/survivor” or their “friends?”

a pui tardi

i’ve lost my immunity to the cold…and other things

That I guess is one of the side affects to this reduced blood pressure thing. The increased sensitivity to cold and and a feeling of exhaustion. Neither of which I like. Honestly, I can deal with the exhaustion. But, that is neither here nor there.

Have I thanked you for subscribing? If not, “thank you.” I appreciate you taking the time out of your day to visit. It means a lot.

You know I’ve been doing this “examination of emotions” thing. I’ve learned (ok recognised) pettiness. I’ve recognised the “true” meaning of loneliness. (Well as defined by me).

Well today, I experienced… Intolerance.

Today, for a brief moment became the “ugly American.”

Today, in complete frustration, I yelled aloud (whilst on hold) why can’t I speak to someone who speaks English.

Now as I type this I realise a few things. Firstly, the person to whom I spoke, DID speak English. He just had a thick accent. One that, today I just didn’t want to ignore.

Secondly, perhaps I, no, not perhaps; I should not have phoned anyone when I was frustrated and (yeah, I admit it) I was just looking for a reason to snap – but there is a realisation there too.

wait a minute
wait for it

I do not know if this is true. But I am thinking that anger = fear.

I was afraid that the csr (customer service rep) would not resolve my issue and that the error would ending up costing me money that I had no wish to spend. So that fear manifested itself in anger at someone doing his job, to the best of his ability and through no fault of his own was faced with the ugly american called drew.

What have I learned?

Perhaps if I were better able to articulate my concerns…

and if I not been in a less than receptive mind set…
you see where this is going don’t you?

I am going to add something to the equation..



Thanks again!

peace and long life